During this year we lost so many people as a community. In my house, we lost a grandmother. She was the first grandparent to pass and our kids, while adults, were greatly affected. My husband lost his mom and well there are no words.
I personally lost my mind.
The election process was and still is devastating to me. I can not seem to grasp how anyone could have voted for the PEOTUS. In my heart, voting for him is a vote for all the horrible things he and his cronies stand for. Isn’t that the very definition of voting?
I went crazy the night of the election and wrote a lengthy rant about people who voted for PEOTUS being supportive of his process and beliefs. I offended many people when I asked them to get off my FB page if they voted for him. Many simply deleted me from their “friends” list. Others barked back at me and then deleted me. I deleted a couple who even after I voiced my feelings continued to post anti-Clinton and anti-Obama sentiments on my posts. I had simply had enough. After eight years of putting up with Obama bashing, I could not face another second of hypocritical behavior from people who are too selfish to care about anyone but themselves; the years of hurt they imposed with their words apparently isn’t as bad as the hurt I imposed when I asked them to look at themselves.
There is a lot more to my dismay that cannot be shared here because of space, and time restrictions as well as my desire to stop digging the hole in which I currently find myself.
I have offended people that were the heart and soul of my life. How I didn’t know that they do not feel the same way about me is disconcerting. I gave up much of my life for these people. Yet, that didn’t seem to warrant a discussion about the pain I was feeling.
I thought about it and have been thinking about it since 11/10/2016. And here is my conclusion.
I have over the last 7 years been in a terrible spot in my personal life. I have shared that with only a handful of people. Two of those people I would consider to be my closest friends in the absolute world. Over the last 7 years, not once did those friends ask, “how are you doing?” Not once.
Yet, when I voice my concern over the way the world is going and that we should not support a person who garners and encourages hate among us, I am attacked and dismissed, again without a word or even seeming concern. (Believe me, there is more about this that will not be said here.)
I recognize that telling people how to vote is not democratic. I also recognize that voting is secretive. But I also know that for 8 years I listened to complaints, lies, derogatory comments, racial slurs, etc about our president without end. Yet, the minute I question the veracity of hiding behind their polling booth curtain I suddenly am not a Christian, not patriotic and certainly not worthy of friendship.
Saying the election doesn’t affect you personally is not good enough. Saying that it’s not Christian-like to expect your closest friends to disavow hate is hypocritical at best and blasphemous at worst.
Well, sorry, I’m not sorry. Thank you for tossing me out of your lives so unceremoniously, it’s the first time I’ve seen the truth about how little I meant to you. Frankly, it does sadden me in that I’ve lived a false life. I have to get my priorities straight and move on…after all, isn’t that what the PEOTUS is asking us to do?
Time to reassess, reprioritize and live well. Time to give back without judgment. Time to reaffirm to the younger generation that it’s not just about them, but how they fit into the bigger picture.
I’m sad. But I’m not sorry that I’m sad. Sometimes it hurts to be on the right side of history. I’m sure I’ll stop crying soon.
Cheers to a productive, focused, healthy and love-based 2017.